Relationships: I have a Crush
Happy Valentine’s Day!
I decided to stay on the topic of love since it’s always a hot topic and something that we’ve discussed in the last blog. Everyone loves something or someone, whether that’s a specific song, dog, family member, friend, or significant other. Sticking to the same theme as last week, I wanted to stay on the same topic of talking about finding a significant other.
As nice as it would be, relationships don’t just start out of thin air. If it was that easy then everyone would be in relationships. I would say relationships starts by having a crush. Now everyone is different, but for the most part, when having a crush most people feel the same kinds of feelings. It usually starts with butterflies in your stomach, or maybe your heart starts racing uncontrollably. It’s a weird feeling but it’s exciting! Once you start feeling those kinds of feelings for someone, you have to ask yourself the question: do they like me back?
This is where it gets complicated. Because while you want to fantasize that the person is head over for heels for you too, you do have to be realistic. In another Medium article, “Signs They’re Attracted to You”, she talks about how we may read into one or a few signs and automatically assume that they like you, but we could also misinterpret it. For example, if they’re giving you eye contact, that doesn’t automatically mean they like you back. Sorry! While sometimes it can, we can’t read into the little things. It’s a complicated concept in which I don’t think many of us will ever understand.
When having a crush, there are really two options that you have:
1. You go for it and pursue it, get to know the person more!
2. You can read into it and then misinterpret it completely
The first option is my personal favorite. But then there’s option two, and when that comes into play that’s where it gets complicated. For me personally, I am an extrovert as I mentioned in my last blog. I’d like to think I can be very friendly, and to some people that can be seen as flirtatious. If you’re friends with your crush or you know them well, it’s good to understand if they have a flirty personality or if they’re really interested in you. This can be a bit difficult to differentiate between. But if you don’t know them that well, then just keep getting to know them. There are plenty of other ways to tell if something is interested in you or not.
Mixed signals are the worst. I would describe this as a hair day. There are good days, eh days, and then bad days. It’s hard to gauge. I definitely think going with your gut is important and following your intuition.
I have a crush on someone but it’s definitely not easy for me to tell what’s going to happen either! I’m in no way a love expert when I talk about these things. I just find it super interesting and I like to break it down and analyze the types of outcomes that could come from building and starting these types of relationships.
When having a crush, the best thing you can possibly do above all else is being yourself. I’m not trying to sound cliche, I think this is the most important thing. If you feel like you have to be someone that you’re not in order for the person to like you back, then they’re not worth it. As harsh as that may sound. The person that you are interested in should like you for you.
Have a Happy Valentine’s Day, whether that be spending time with your pets, friends, family, or significant other. ❤
